Episode 3 is live — and this one is close to my heart.
Have you ever felt like… you don’t recognize yourself anymore?
Like the version of you that used to feel clear, confident, and certain… is just… gone?
That’s what we’re talking about today.
Not the dramatic, everything-fell-apart kind of lost. But that quiet, unsettling feeling that creeps in when you’re going through your day, doing all the things — and somewhere underneath it all, something just feels… off.
In Episode 3, we’re sitting with one of the most common — and least talked about — experiences women in their 40s go through.
Losing your identity.
And no, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It doesn’t mean you made all the wrong choices. It means you’ve grown — and you’re in the uncomfortable, necessary space between who you were… and who you’re becoming.
In this episode we talk about 👇🏽
- What it actually feels like to be disconnected from yourself
- Why this happens — especially in your 40s
- The difference between a breakdown and a transition
- Gentle ways to start finding your way back to you
And I get a little personal in this one. Because I think that’s where the real connection happens — not when everything is polished, but when we’re honest.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever said — even just to yourself:
“I’m fine… but I don’t feel like myself.”
“I don’t know what I want anymore.”
“I feel stuck between who I was and who I’m supposed to be next.”
You are not alone in that. Not even a little.
Episode 3 is out now.
And after you listen — come back and tell me. What resonated with you most? I genuinely want to know. 🤍
Save this if you need it. Share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is let someone know — you’re not the only one.
🎙️ Show Notes
Episode 3: Losing Identity — Who Are You When Everything Changes?
There’s a feeling that so many women in their 40s know — but rarely say out loud.
I’m functioning. I’m showing up. But I don’t fully feel like myself.
In this episode, we go into that feeling honestly and without judgment. We talk about what losing your identity actually looks like in everyday life — not the dramatic version, but the quiet, slow kind that sneaks up on you between responsibilities, roles, and routines.
We also talk about why this happens — because understanding the reason behind the feeling can change everything. And we close with some gentle, grounded ways to start finding your way back to yourself. No pressure. No 10-step plan. Just honest conversation between friends.
In this episode:
- What it feels like to be disconnected from yourself — even when life looks fine on the outside
- Why the things you used to love stop feeling the same
- The questions that show up late at night when everything gets quiet
- Why identity shifts happen — especially in your 40s
- The difference between a breakdown and a transition
- Why you don’t need to rush clarity
- Gentle ways to start coming back to yourself
Quotes from this episode:
“It’s like I’m here… but I don’t fully feel like myself.”
“No one talks about the space between who you were… and who you’re becoming.”
“Maybe you’re not lost. Maybe you’re just becoming someone new. And that takes time.”
Resources mentioned:
📖 Read the full blog post: What to Do When You Feel Lost in Your 40s → https://becomingwithlala.com/2026/04/06/what-to-do-when-you-feel-lost-in-your-40s/
📓 Journal prompt from this episode: “What no longer feels like me?”
Connect with me: 📸 Instagram: @anywayimbecoming 🌐 Website: https://becomingwithlala.com
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